niemis:

niemis:

if you do not actively desire sex but still have sex that may be self-harm. i’ve done this. it sucks and in the long run will fuck you up when or if you actually desire sex.

having sex for the sole purpose of “pleasing a partner” is sex that may traumatize you. sex should be enjoyable and it shouldn’t place any burdens on you and if you don’t want sex then don’t force yourself to have sex